Boy Friends & Boyfriends II
(Otherwise titled: I don’t Wanna Be A Stupid Girl)
Where, oh where, have the smart people gone?
Oh where, oh where could they be?
Seriously, there are excellent reasons (like totally, totally intelligent and prudent ones that would easily triumph over the totally, totally vicious accusations and allegations hurled at you by the most withered of prudes) to sustain close relations with the opposite sex. You are being very naïve to deny yourself of such pleasurable and pleasing attractions (NB: The following obviously applies to both sexes but for the ease of writing, I shall be writing in the capacity representing my gender). Here are two bright reasons why you should always keep a close pool of the opposite sex friends to bring on the sparkles (and sustain the sparks of course) in a romantic liaision:
1. An iota (perhaps up to x10 the amount) of jealousy and competition will always be healthy. Knowing that you are good friends with other men means he will always be keeping in mind your attractiveness and options. He will hesitate to treat you shabbily and in fact compare himself to your male friends, so as to ensure that at the barest minimal, he’s on par with them. Which is good news for the ladies, but please, do surround yourself with decent male friends ie rich, handsome, kind, intellectual etc etc. Such that he feels positively threatened in a way that is only beneficial and advantageous to yourself. Do not, at any time, self-sabotage your standards by allowing him to catch you befriending someone who is Bad News. Your boyfriend might get the idea he is too good boyfriend material for you, or that he can be casual ie shabby and you will still take him as he is.
Maybe if I act like that, that guy will call me back
Porno Paparazzi girl, I don't wanna be a stupid girl
Baby if I act like that, flipping my blond hair back
Push up my bra like that, I don't wanna be a stupid girl
2. Who knows how long this latest relationship can last. Yes, I may be the last surviving romantic cynic but trust me, you can’t sit around to wait for a guy to make the first move, or even to propose, if you have miserably committed yourself to that extent. Life goes on. You just have to keep living too. Suppose your relationship ends, and you have cut off all ties with previous male friends, hell, will you still look for them? I can’t bring myself to, not when I have dumped them so unceremoniously for a boyfriend, even if they claim to understand. Which means you have no male friends!!! And that brings a whole load of new problems into the picture.
For hanging out with male friends means you still get to be tei2 and cutesy and unreasonable, and be comfortable with your sexuality around men. You still feel loved and cared for and secure in the validation of your charms and attractions. You get to be feminine without the baggage of a relationship. Now, imagine, no male friends at all. I shudder. Forgetting entirely how to interact in male presence is one thing. You have no concrete grounding of the male perspective, no real-life practical practices. Worse, you may neglect to remember you are the attractive and charming creature and sink deep into the recesses of self-pity: where have all the men gone? They didn’t go just anywhere, darling. You kicked them outta your life based on what your (ex)boyfriend likes. And you so deserve your pathetic circumstance.
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In any case, if the boyfriend still objects to my seeing the boy friends, we have to work through the why nots. Is it insecurity, lack of trust, previous bad experiences, what. Don’t blame me for your issues or complex. I don’t restrict you. Why do it to me. I certainly hope you can come into my life without tearing apart the other bits I like. You are the compliment and a complement to my life. Before we can commit for sure that you do make Life whole, it’s too early to destroy the original cycle for this bizarre renaissance to take place.
I'm so glad that I'll never fit in
That will never be me
Outcasts and girls with ambition
That's what I wanna see
Girls, please don’t fall into the trap of isolating yourself in the name of Love.
Where, oh where, have the smart people gone?
Oh where, oh where could they be?
Seriously, there are excellent reasons (like totally, totally intelligent and prudent ones that would easily triumph over the totally, totally vicious accusations and allegations hurled at you by the most withered of prudes) to sustain close relations with the opposite sex. You are being very naïve to deny yourself of such pleasurable and pleasing attractions (NB: The following obviously applies to both sexes but for the ease of writing, I shall be writing in the capacity representing my gender). Here are two bright reasons why you should always keep a close pool of the opposite sex friends to bring on the sparkles (and sustain the sparks of course) in a romantic liaision:
1. An iota (perhaps up to x10 the amount) of jealousy and competition will always be healthy. Knowing that you are good friends with other men means he will always be keeping in mind your attractiveness and options. He will hesitate to treat you shabbily and in fact compare himself to your male friends, so as to ensure that at the barest minimal, he’s on par with them. Which is good news for the ladies, but please, do surround yourself with decent male friends ie rich, handsome, kind, intellectual etc etc. Such that he feels positively threatened in a way that is only beneficial and advantageous to yourself. Do not, at any time, self-sabotage your standards by allowing him to catch you befriending someone who is Bad News. Your boyfriend might get the idea he is too good boyfriend material for you, or that he can be casual ie shabby and you will still take him as he is.
Maybe if I act like that, that guy will call me back
Porno Paparazzi girl, I don't wanna be a stupid girl
Baby if I act like that, flipping my blond hair back
Push up my bra like that, I don't wanna be a stupid girl
2. Who knows how long this latest relationship can last. Yes, I may be the last surviving romantic cynic but trust me, you can’t sit around to wait for a guy to make the first move, or even to propose, if you have miserably committed yourself to that extent. Life goes on. You just have to keep living too. Suppose your relationship ends, and you have cut off all ties with previous male friends, hell, will you still look for them? I can’t bring myself to, not when I have dumped them so unceremoniously for a boyfriend, even if they claim to understand. Which means you have no male friends!!! And that brings a whole load of new problems into the picture.
For hanging out with male friends means you still get to be tei2 and cutesy and unreasonable, and be comfortable with your sexuality around men. You still feel loved and cared for and secure in the validation of your charms and attractions. You get to be feminine without the baggage of a relationship. Now, imagine, no male friends at all. I shudder. Forgetting entirely how to interact in male presence is one thing. You have no concrete grounding of the male perspective, no real-life practical practices. Worse, you may neglect to remember you are the attractive and charming creature and sink deep into the recesses of self-pity: where have all the men gone? They didn’t go just anywhere, darling. You kicked them outta your life based on what your (ex)boyfriend likes. And you so deserve your pathetic circumstance.
*
In any case, if the boyfriend still objects to my seeing the boy friends, we have to work through the why nots. Is it insecurity, lack of trust, previous bad experiences, what. Don’t blame me for your issues or complex. I don’t restrict you. Why do it to me. I certainly hope you can come into my life without tearing apart the other bits I like. You are the compliment and a complement to my life. Before we can commit for sure that you do make Life whole, it’s too early to destroy the original cycle for this bizarre renaissance to take place.
I'm so glad that I'll never fit in
That will never be me
Outcasts and girls with ambition
That's what I wanna see
Girls, please don’t fall into the trap of isolating yourself in the name of Love.
1 Comments:
this is totally irelevant. But.
I felt that Mr Dimples looked very good when he is chao4ta1.
I believe I am repeating myself
:X
Meihui, you must stop me when i'm acting like a stupid girl. not encourage me!!!
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