超过了友情 还不到爱情
My friends know I’m all for intimate platonic males relationships (however oxymoronic that may sound to outsiders not in my social circle) for wise and prudent reasons, and the occasional selfish one like requiring an entertaining escort/chauffeur to esoteric functions. What follows is merely for the record and while I really can’t bring myself to agree, I can remind myself of the pitfalls even as I think 我玩得起 and it will never happen to me. Ladies and gentlemen, I present you quotes from an online article Not Your Buddy courtesy of dear Beautante who read my previous entry on yet another fun-filled, friendly, and frustratingly futile non-date date with Mr Dimples and promptly dug out the link to send me:
If, as a woman, you are indulging in an intimate friendship with a man who is not pursuing you, you are accepting a cheap imitation of love. And by spending all your time with a guy who will never put a ring on your finger, you may miss a potential suitor.
AA’S thoughts: What? Please reread my entry on the necessity of having close platonic male rallying around you.
Single men and women are failing each other. Uncommitted intimate friendships may satiate immediate needs, but they lead to frustration and heartache. Not to mention, for singles ready for marriage, these "friendships" waste time and energy.
AA’s thoughts: Well, I am just as uncommitted. Frankly, I am not sure how I will react if Someone were to declare/propose. Not then. Not now either. It’s fun wondering whether He is The One and whether He will actually put himself up for rejection but being Someone’s girlfriend/wife is a separate issue altogether. I never actually think about what happens next after the declaration/proposal. It’s very weird, I know but I shudder to think further. Period. Perhaps this is my auto defense mechanism kicking in. I apologise if I am wasting your time and energy too but I guess you have to pop the question one day for us to find out. Meanwhile, let’s just enjoy the companionship, please?
Women, on the other hand, need to assume less. A woman should not assume that a guy friend she's spending time with is: a) just too shy to make a move; b) thinking she's the woman of his dreams but the timing isn't right; c) in denial of God's will that they be together.
AA’s thoughts: Yay, I’m the most underreading person I know, don’t you know. I have been accused of never getting the wrong idea. As well as behaviour that marks my own intent as crazily unclear. Bygones.
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Well, so much for that. What will it take for me to get the wrong idea and admit my intent? I’m afraid that will take another’s confession for I am unable to do it on my own. Woe to the male who is just that into me because he will need to be patient on top of a list of must have superlatives.
Other articles from the same site:
Real Men Risk Rejection
Real Men Initiate
Disclaimer: I read from the independent secular standpoint even though the articles have religious affliations.
暧昧让人变得贪心
直到等待失去意义
无奈我和你 写不出结局
放遗憾的美丽停在这里
If, as a woman, you are indulging in an intimate friendship with a man who is not pursuing you, you are accepting a cheap imitation of love. And by spending all your time with a guy who will never put a ring on your finger, you may miss a potential suitor.
AA’S thoughts: What? Please reread my entry on the necessity of having close platonic male rallying around you.
Single men and women are failing each other. Uncommitted intimate friendships may satiate immediate needs, but they lead to frustration and heartache. Not to mention, for singles ready for marriage, these "friendships" waste time and energy.
AA’s thoughts: Well, I am just as uncommitted. Frankly, I am not sure how I will react if Someone were to declare/propose. Not then. Not now either. It’s fun wondering whether He is The One and whether He will actually put himself up for rejection but being Someone’s girlfriend/wife is a separate issue altogether. I never actually think about what happens next after the declaration/proposal. It’s very weird, I know but I shudder to think further. Period. Perhaps this is my auto defense mechanism kicking in. I apologise if I am wasting your time and energy too but I guess you have to pop the question one day for us to find out. Meanwhile, let’s just enjoy the companionship, please?
Women, on the other hand, need to assume less. A woman should not assume that a guy friend she's spending time with is: a) just too shy to make a move; b) thinking she's the woman of his dreams but the timing isn't right; c) in denial of God's will that they be together.
AA’s thoughts: Yay, I’m the most underreading person I know, don’t you know. I have been accused of never getting the wrong idea. As well as behaviour that marks my own intent as crazily unclear. Bygones.
*
Well, so much for that. What will it take for me to get the wrong idea and admit my intent? I’m afraid that will take another’s confession for I am unable to do it on my own. Woe to the male who is just that into me because he will need to be patient on top of a list of must have superlatives.
Other articles from the same site:
Real Men Risk Rejection
Real Men Initiate
Disclaimer: I read from the independent secular standpoint even though the articles have religious affliations.
暧昧让人变得贪心
直到等待失去意义
无奈我和你 写不出结局
放遗憾的美丽停在这里
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